By Jill Minnix
Being a mom can be scary and overwhelming. There are days when you feel like you are just not strong enough to keep caring for your kids, not patient enough to keep training them, not wise enough to keep instructing them.
But you are not alone on these hard days. God is the one who entrusted your children to you, and He can sustain you through the hard and holy work of mothering them. Here are two simple truths from God’s Word that I hope encourage you:
1. God knew who your children would be.
When God entrusted your kid(s) to you, He knew how each of your kids would act. He knew how they would think and who they would become. God knows your kids’ hearts because he created them:
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them” (Ps 139:13-16).
God is sovereign over your kids’ lives and over your life. Part of that sovereignty is His design in entrusting those kids to you. God meant for you to be the mother of your kids. Whether your kids are biological or adopted, God was sovereign in bestowing them into your care.
Whatever obstacles your child faces, God knew them from the beginning of time (Isaiah 46:10). If your child struggles with the effects of a traumatic past or with disease or disability, that is the effect of the Fall and human sin. But God is not surprised by these struggles, as hard and as horrible as they can be. He knew from the beginning, and His redemptive love is able to work in and through these challenges.
The challenges you and your children are facing do not surprise God. The difficulties and obstacles aren’t outside of His good plan for your family. Your Heavenly Father, who loves you so much that He sent His own Son to suffer in your place, chose you as the mother for your children. You are not the wrong mom for your kid(s)—you are chosen.
2. God is strong when you feel inadequate or insufficient.
Being a mom is really, really, really hard work. Being a godly, wise, and loving mom is downright impossible—if we’re trying to do it on our own.
But we don’t have to do it on our own. We have a mighty God, who delights in helping us. Hear how David talks about God’s help in Psalm 31:
In you, O LORD, do I take refuge; let me never be put to shame; in your righteousness deliver me! Incline your ear to me; rescue me speedily! Be a rock of refuge for me, a strong fortress to save me! For you are my rock and my fortress; and for your name’s sake you lead me and guide me” (Ps 31:1-3).
Moms, run to your rock of refuge today. Run to your strong fortress. He is eager to shelter you in His arms.
Bring him your tiredness, your stress, your anxiety. Jesus is sitting on the right hand of God the Father advocating for you. He has purchased you by His own blood. You are His precious daughter, and He treasures your prayers. Cry out to Him to strength and joy and patience.
He is your good Father (the only perfect and self-sufficient parent), and He is mighty to save.
(This blog post is modified from the twelfth session of ROOTED, in which Jill Minnix encourages adoptive and foster moms about their role and God’s sovereign love for them. Jill is a wife, homeschool mom, and missionary who has lived in Mexico and Costa Rica. She and her husband now serve as the International Managers for Hope for Orphans.)